It’s ok to ask people to tell you how great you are: To get more detailed feedback, she suggests, ask your manager questions like: “What’s something I bring to the team that you wish others did, too?” or “It’s important to me that I learn from my successes as well as my failures. Let’s debrief some of the things that went really well this past quarter.”
“As a general rule, showing vulnerability and humanness is powerful in that it builds connection,” says Nino-Murcia. “There’s one important caveat, though. If you’re showcasing vulnerability in the exact core competency that people expect of you, it actually tends to be more unsettling for those around you.”
Reconheça o "eu" na equipe: take notice of your own contributions to the team’s success. It’s important to make the distinction that you’re not taking credit for your reports’ accomplishments, but rather acknowledging how you as their manager helped facilitate, guide, or encourage that success.